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Tuesday, 29 December 2015

What A Year

What A Year
Tuesday, 29 December 2015
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Friday, 25 December 2015

Celebramos Juntos La Vida

Celebramos Juntos La Vida
Friday, 25 December 2015
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Tuesday, 22 December 2015

Saying Goodbye

Saying Goodbye
Tuesday, 22 December 2015
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Sunday, 20 December 2015

Adventures Around Athens

Adventures Around Athens
Sunday, 20 December 2015
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Friday, 18 December 2015

Home Is Where The Heart Is

Home Is Where The Heart Is
Friday, 18 December 2015
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Abu Dhabi
Tuesday, 15 December 2015

Successful Studying

Successful Studying
Tuesday, 15 December 2015
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Successful Studying
Sunday, 13 December 2015

I Want To Be A Nomad

I Want To Be A Nomad
Sunday, 13 December 2015
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Living A Nomadic Lifestyle
Friday, 11 December 2015

When Times Are Tough

When Times Are Tough
Friday, 11 December 2015
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When Times Are Tough
Tuesday, 8 December 2015

Being Strong

Being Strong
Tuesday, 8 December 2015
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Being Strong
Sunday, 6 December 2015

Athens

Athens
Sunday, 6 December 2015
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Acropolis, Athens, Greece
Friday, 4 December 2015

Finding Happiness

Finding Happiness
Friday, 4 December 2015
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Finding Happiness
Tuesday, 1 December 2015

Embracing Sadness

Embracing Sadness
Tuesday, 1 December 2015
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Embracing Sadness
Friday, 27 November 2015

Problematic Love Stories

Problematic Love Stories
Friday, 27 November 2015
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Problematic Love Stories
Tuesday, 24 November 2015

Understanding Alienation

Understanding Alienation
Tuesday, 24 November 2015
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The Feeling Of Alienation
Sunday, 22 November 2015

A Love Letter To Abu Dhabi

A Love Letter To Abu Dhabi
Sunday, 22 November 2015
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Sheik Zayed Grand Mosque, Abu Dhabi
Friday, 20 November 2015

Can People Have Different Truths?

Can People Have Different Truths?
Friday, 20 November 2015
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Can People Have Different Truths
Tuesday, 17 November 2015

This Is My Fight Song

This Is My Fight Song
Tuesday, 17 November 2015
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The Power Of Being Single
Sunday, 15 November 2015

Thinking About Paris

Thinking About Paris
Sunday, 15 November 2015
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Thinking About Paris
Friday, 13 November 2015

The Pursuit Of Writing

The Pursuit Of Writing
Friday, 13 November 2015
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The Pursuit Of Writing
Tuesday, 10 November 2015

What To Do When You're Feeling Guilty

What To Do When You're Feeling Guilty
Tuesday, 10 November 2015
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Feeling Guilty
Sunday, 8 November 2015

A Taste Of Abu Dhabi

A Taste Of Abu Dhabi
Sunday, 8 November 2015
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Friday, 6 November 2015

Living My Values

Living My Values
Friday, 6 November 2015
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Living My Personal Values
Tuesday, 3 November 2015

How To Be A Better Listener

How To Be A Better Listener
Tuesday, 3 November 2015
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How To Be A Good Listener
Friday, 30 October 2015

Kazakhstan

Kazakhstan
Friday, 30 October 2015
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Tuesday, 27 October 2015

Why I Choose To Be Vulnerable

Why I Choose To Be Vulnerable
Tuesday, 27 October 2015
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The Power Of Vulnerability
(And wear my heart on my sleeve!)
Saturday, 24 October 2015

Making Time For Blogging

Making Time For Blogging
Saturday, 24 October 2015
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Making Time For Blogging When Busy
Tuesday, 20 October 2015

Why I Chose To Study Abroad For Four Years

Why I Chose To Study Abroad For Four Years
Tuesday, 20 October 2015
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Why I Study Abroad In Abu Dhabi
(And not just because I can go to the beach in 30 degrees on any old Saturday)
Sunday, 18 October 2015

Desert Shenanigans

Desert Shenanigans
Sunday, 18 October 2015
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Friday, 16 October 2015

Being Catastrophic

Being Catastrophic
Friday, 16 October 2015
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Advice About Being Catastrophic
Tuesday, 13 October 2015

Why Do We Fetishise Being Busy?

Why Do We Fetishise Being Busy?
Tuesday, 13 October 2015
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Why Are We All So Busy
Sunday, 11 October 2015

Basking in Brooklyn Botanical Gardens

Basking in Brooklyn Botanical Gardens
Sunday, 11 October 2015
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Brooklyn Botanical Gardens, New York
Saturday, 10 October 2015

Getting Help

Getting Help
Saturday, 10 October 2015
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Getting Help
Friday, 9 October 2015

Why I Don't Click Publish

Why I Don't Click Publish
Friday, 9 October 2015
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Why I Don't Click Publish
Tuesday, 6 October 2015

How To Healthily Handle Anger

How To Healthily Handle Anger
Tuesday, 6 October 2015
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How To Healthily Handle Anger
Friday, 2 October 2015

Guest Post: Discomfort Zone

Guest Post: Discomfort Zone
Friday, 2 October 2015
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Discomfort Zone

Understanding My Privilege

Understanding My Privilege

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Understanding My Privilege
Tuesday, 29 September 2015

Jumping Heart First

Jumping Heart First
Tuesday, 29 September 2015
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Being Brave With Poetry
Sunday, 27 September 2015

#EndSmallTalk

#EndSmallTalk
Sunday, 27 September 2015
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End Small Talk In The Space, Abu Dhabi
Friday, 25 September 2015

When Love Isn't Enough

When Love Isn't Enough
Friday, 25 September 2015
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When Love Isn't Enough
Tuesday, 22 September 2015

Being Creative For Yourself

Being Creative For Yourself
Tuesday, 22 September 2015
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Creativity and Self Care
Sunday, 20 September 2015

Things I Learnt In Costa Rica

Things I Learnt In Costa Rica
Sunday, 20 September 2015
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Learning From Your Travels
Friday, 18 September 2015

What Living Abroad Has Taught Me

What Living Abroad Has Taught Me
Friday, 18 September 2015
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What Living Abroad Has Taught Me
Tuesday, 15 September 2015

What Happens When We Compliment Ourselves?

What Happens When We Compliment Ourselves?
Tuesday, 15 September 2015
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Wbat Happens When We Compliment Ourselves
Sunday, 13 September 2015

Sightseeing in San Jose

Sightseeing in San Jose
Sunday, 13 September 2015
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National Museum in San Jose, Costa Rica
Friday, 11 September 2015

End The Stigma. Period.

End The Stigma. Period.
Friday, 11 September 2015
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End The Stigma About Periods, Tampon Tax
Tuesday, 8 September 2015

The Truth About Bronde

The Truth About Bronde
Tuesday, 8 September 2015
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The truth about bronde
Sunday, 6 September 2015

Helicopter Over Niagara Falls

Helicopter Over Niagara Falls
Sunday, 6 September 2015
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Helicopter ride over Niagara Falls, Canada
Friday, 4 September 2015

Guest Post: Life Begins At The End Of Your Comfort Zone

Guest Post: Life Begins At The End Of Your Comfort Zone
Friday, 4 September 2015
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Stepping outside your comfort zone
Thursday, 3 September 2015

Thunderstorms From 40,000ft

Thunderstorms From 40,000ft
Thursday, 3 September 2015
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Thunderstorms From An Airplane
Tuesday, 1 September 2015

How To Handle A Break Up

How To Handle A Break Up
Tuesday, 1 September 2015
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How To Handle A Break Up
Sunday, 30 August 2015

Niagara Falls

Niagara Falls
Sunday, 30 August 2015
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Niagara Falls, Canada
Friday, 28 August 2015

Reflections On New York

Reflections On New York
Friday, 28 August 2015
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View of Manhattan from DUMBO, New York, USA
Tuesday, 25 August 2015

What I Learnt From Wearing Matching Underwear

What I Learnt From Wearing Matching Underwear
Tuesday, 25 August 2015
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As of last week I have worn matching underwear every single day for two years, which is 734 days if anyone is counting (which clearly I am).

That’s two years of my bra matching my knickers, which according to Cosmpolitan and Pinterest should be a pretty big confidence boost for little old me. 

Why did I start? Well the date was easy to remember because I made the conscious decision to start counting when I flew out to Abu Dhabi to begin university, and in general I’d tried to wear matching sets before that. After five months of backpacking, when underwear was about practicality rather than prettiness, I had looked to revolutionise my knicker-wearing ways and a new phase in life seemed as good a time as any to begin. Did I buy into the gossip magazine view that matching underwear is the key to success and that I would feel instantly fabulous? I’m not entirely sure, but it was almost an experiment to myself.

So two years later here are the things I’ve learnt:

You raise the bar: Now the thought of not wearing matching underwear makes me feel horrendous. I just can’t do it okay? I just can’t. 

Buying into a societal standard of success and beauty won't actually make you feel better: Sure when I did it on random days and was conscious of the choice, stepping outside the house in a pretty matching set made me feel great. I had a spring in my step, bouncier hair, hell I pretty much Carrie-d my way down steps. But when it became a daily thing I still had times where I felt rubbish, and the cotton covering me in those areas wasn’t going to change that. 

Which lead me to realise..

Self confidence comes from within: That extra boost that I was feeling before was essentially a placebo. In paying to attention to the underwear I put on, I was telling myself that I deserved the boost. Sure buying co-ordinating undergarments is one way of doing that, but so is wearing that daring red lipstick, or spending a little extra on a pair of shoes. They are all ways in which we externalise a message that says ‘I am worth making an effort for myself’ and that’s where that bubbly feeling of confidence is coming from. On some of my more miserable days (see: feeling unattractive) I’ve learnt that staring myself down and saying ‘you deserve to feel good about yourself’ goes someway towards giving me that buzz. If that doesn’t work then at least my MAC ‘Ruby Woo’ is great (although don’t do it every time you feel rubbish because now the boyfriend tends to ask me what’s wrong whenever I rock a red lip.. whoops). 

So where do I go from here? Well I’m definitely going to continue with matching because it’s a lot easier than I expected and see point one. But I’m also going to take note of the other things I expressed in this post: I deserve to feel that confidence boost because of who I am, not what I wear, and I hope you’ll embrace that for yourselves. 

What do you think?



Sunday, 23 August 2015

New Year, New Blog

New Year, New Blog
Sunday, 23 August 2015
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Relaunching the blog, I can and I will
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